Sugar challenge

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Hello, hello, hello!  We are back again to share our week 2 challenge with the American heart association’s Family Healthy Challenge.  This week we are talking about SUGAR!

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This weekend I grabbed all the drinks in the fridge and put them on the table.  Ryley immediately popped out of her room and wanted to know what was going on and why were all the drinks out.  I told her to come hang out with me and we would talk about it.  (Avery was too busy playing with Legos.  And he was quiet.  We don’t mess with a quiet turkey.)  

I told her to look at the back of each drink and find the word that said “Sugar”.  I gave her a piece of paper and told her to write the number once she found it.  

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It was like a mini math and reading lesson.  She loved finding the number and writing them down by the drinks name.  While she did that we talked about why we need sugar in drinks and what it does to your body.  In kindergarten terms – it’s to make it sweet and if you have too much it can hurt your body.  She seemed to understand.  

I converted the grams to tablespoons (aka I used this website) and told her to scoop out 12 tablespoons into the glass on the table.  

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I told her that if she had 6 drinks in one day (which can happen) that would be the amount of sugar she had.  She said “that’s a lot of sugar mommy!”  And we talked again why it wasn’t the best idea to have that much sugar.  I told her to check the “sugar” section the next time she has a drink and she seemed excited about it.  

I was happy she was interested in this weeks challenge.  It wasn’t as hands on as the grocery store scavenger hunt but was still fun.  

Next weeks challenge is My Taste is Why: Reducing your sodium intake.  I’m going to have to think of a game or lesson we can do for that one.  Maybe something similar to this week.  

Be sure to join the AHA’s event page to follow along!  

Grocery Store Scavenger Hunt

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Hey yall!  I mentioned before that we are taking part in the Family Health Challenge this month.  We just completed the first week of the challenge which was increasing your fruit and veggie intake.  My kids love fruits but are pretty picky abut their vegetables.  Ryley and I went on a rainbow scavenger hunt to help.

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I made a simple rainbow checklist to help us search for colorful fruits and veggies in the produce department.  She really like it!  Not only was she interested in the colors but she also asked a bunch of questions.  We were able to talk about different fruits and veggies and why they were good for you. 

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Some of the colors were easy to find.  She went straight to the bananas for yellow and or course grabbed an orange for the orange square.  It got a little tricky with the purple and indigo colors.  She had to search a little harder and check out fruits and veggies she was not familiar with. 

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We picked up Japanese eggplant for our purple square and a plum for indigo.  She had not tasted either but was very excited to try them.  We only bought one plum but she called it her plum and no one else was allowed to eat it!  We also had eggplant Parmesan for dinner.  She wasn’t a giant fan of the eggplant but I was happy she at least tried it.

Our rainbow check list was pretty basic, but I created a fun one to share.  Print it out and take it with you to the grocery store to have your own scavenger hunt!  And then there is a spot at the bottom to count the different colors you have on your plate.  It’s a pretty fun activity and should help to increase your fruits and veggies!

Rainbow grocery store scavenger hunt

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This weeks challenge is Reducing your sugar sweetened beverage consumptionI’ll share how we did next week!  Be sure to follow along with the American Heart Association to keep up to date with the challenges!

Grandma’s Pistachio Dessert

Grandmas pistachio dessert recipe

One of the easiest desserts to make, but one that you will get asked to make over and over.

Hands down one of my all time favorite recipes! Grandmas pistachio dessert is so easy to make and SO GOOD! Everyone will be asking you for the recipe

When I was younger, my grandma was my best friend in the whole world.  We would shop together, do our nails, cook at home and dream about the future.  She always said she couldn’t wait til I was 16 so that I would be able to drive over whenever I wanted.  It makes me so incredibly sad to think that never happened.  She passed away when I was still in middle school and gah I still miss her something fierce. 

I still have dreams about her though.  Her coming down the stairs in her house and saying hello.  And her sitting in front of her vanity in the bedroom doing her hair just right.  I literally cling to those dreams when I wake up.

Easy pistachio dessert that everyone will love!

It also makes me sad that my kids will never know my grandma.  She would have spoiled them even more then she did us, if that is possible.  I am so incredibly happy that my kids got to know Ryon’s grandparents before they passed though.  They called them “grandma and grandpa” even though they were their great grandparents. 

And boy did they get spoiled.  Grandpa would love to send the kids gifts for every holiday.  We will have stickers for many, many, many years to come because those were his favorite thing to send.

Grandmas pistachio dessert recipe

Grandma was known for her cooking and gardening.  This pistachio dessert was her specialty.  I’m sure it has another name, but everyone has called it “grandma’s pistachio dessert” for as long as I’ve known.  It is a treat when we make it and we love to talk about grandma and grandpa while we take bites. 

It’s easy to make and whenever we had a church potluck or family event, grandma would have this dessert in tow.

Grandmas pistachio dessert

When grandpa passed away, we took the kids to the funeral.  We explained to them that grandpa was with Jesus and was no longer sick.  Ryley, in her beautiful innocence looked up at the casket and said “He went to Jesus in his treasure box!”  That sentence.  That sweet sentence from my 4 year old baby girl.  It still makes me tear up and it probably always will.  Yes, my love.  He went to Jesus in his treasure box.

Grandma passed away a few months after grandpa.  She just couldn’t be without him.  At her funeral, pastor pulled out a giant picture of Jesus pulling caskets from a field and placed it in front for us all to see.  The message was so beautiful – Jesus would come back for all of us, even after we left this world in our treasure boxes.  Pastor crafted a whole sermon around what Ryley had said just a few months earlier. 

“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.” Matthew 13:44

Delicious pistachio dessert! Sugar cookie crush, pistachio pudding and homemade whipped cream

The kids still remember and talk about grandma and grandpa.  Mostly because they had an old Mickey train set that all the great grandkids loved to play with when they visited.  But Ryley always mentions their treasure boxes.  “They are with Jesus in their treasure boxes, right mommy?”  Oh sweet girl.  They are. 

I am so glad that my kids have sweet memories (aside from the treasure boxes and train set) of their great grandparents.  We will do whatever we can to carry on their memory as well.  Like with grandma’s pistachio dessert and fun stories of grandpa putzing around the yard. 

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Grandma's Pistachio Dessert
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Ingredients
  • Cookie crust:
  • 1¼ cup sugar
  • 1 cup butter, softened
  • 1 large egg
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 2½ cup flour
  • ½ tsp salt
  • ½ tsp baking soda
  • 1 tsp cream of tartar
  • 1 package instant pistachio pudding mix - http://amzn.to/1DUL8n1
  • 2 cups cold milk
  • 2 cups heavy whipping cream
  • ¼ cup of sugar
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
Instructions
  1. Preheat oven to 350.
  2. Beat together the sugar and butter until creamy.
  3. Add in the egg and mix until combined.
  4. Add the flour, salt baking soda and cream of tartar until combined.
  5. Press the cookie dough into a 9x13 baking dish that has been sprayed with cooking spray.
  6. Cook for 20 minutes, or until the edges start to brown.
  7. Remove and allow to cool completely.
  8. While the cookie crust is cooling, whip together the pistachio pudding and milk until it starts to thicken.
  9. Pour it over the cooled cookie crust and place in the fridge.
  10. Pour heavy whipping cream into a chilled bowl.
  11. Using a stand or hand mixer, mix for 2-3 minutes until soft peak form.
  12. Add your sugar and vanilla.
  13. Mix for an additional minute until it the peaks are firmer.
  14. Spread the whipped cream over the pistachio pudding, cover and let chill for about an hour.

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Happy 4th Birthday Avery!

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Hey turkey!  Today you turn the big oh-four! 

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I feel like it was just yesterday we were eating dinner for the last time as a family of three the day before you were born.  I went in Monday night on the 25th and you were born Tuesday the 26th right before noon.  Exactly 14 months apart to the day from sissy.  You came into this world with a full head of black hair and screaming.  You have since lost the black hair but you still scream a lot.  You are 100 percent boy and love to be loud.  You also love to get your sister in trouble.  I’m not sure at this point which you like more.

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You don’t care if you are dirty.  You love to put (tons and tons) of rocks in your pockets.  You are really into superheroes right now.  You can’t sit still if you had to.  You’re sister is your best friend and your biggest rival all in the same breath.  You like to scream dramatically whenever yall get into a tiff.  You like to drink juice and milk from the carton, although I’m not sure where you picked that up. 

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You love everything your sister loves and want to destroy it simultaneously.  You do.not.stop.talking.  Ever at all.  The only time you are not talking is when you are sleeping and even then you can’t stay still.  You wiggle all over the bed and make sure your feet are in some one’s back at all times.  

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Your papa and pa are your two favorite people.  You love to copy them.  You also like to just say their names out loud and when they answer you say “love you” or “nuffin”.  You love to snuggle up on both of their laps and watch toons.  Pa looks forward to bubby snuggles whenever we are together and you are happy to oblige.  You will sit still and munch on a snack and just hang out with the guys.

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You are so very smart.  You know your colors and letters and love to sing.  You will just start singing songs throughout the day.  It’s the sweetest thing ever.  You love to paint.  But I’m not surprised because you love anything messy, like I said.  The paint gets on whatever you are painting and yourself in a matter of minutes.  I wish I could just give you a paint brush and colors and let you got to town every day.  It’s probably one of your all time favorite things to do. 

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Oh Av, I wish I had the words to convey how much I love you.  I just look at you and know you will grow up to be a great man like your daddy.  (And Pa and Papa).  You have such a fun spirit and gosh you make us laugh.  You make momma and daddy so happy turkey!  You melt my heart when you tell me “love you” and even when you say “meannn momma”.  I could nibble on your cheeks all day long.  You are so beautifully and wonderfully made my sweet son.  I thank the Lord every single day for you. 

I hope you have a great fourth birthday buddy!  We sure love you!

Love,

Momma

 

What to do when your children hits their head

What to do if your child hits their head.  Advice from a mom who has been there!

Hey yall!  I wanted to take a minute to talk about what to do when your children hits their head.  Last month we had to take Avery to the emergency room because he slipped on a toy and hit his head pretty hard.  We were at my parents house so my mom was there and able to help me assess the situation but I would have freaked out if we were alone.  Hitting your head is scary stuff!  I am thankful that he was ok and that we decided to take him in. 

What to do if your child hits their head.  Advice from a mom who has been there!

First let me say, I am not a doctor.  You should always consult a doctor if anything serious like this happens.  This is just practical advice from one mom to another.  And a few things I learned from taking Avery to the ER.  So what do you do if your kiddo hits their head pretty hard?

  • Stay calm.  You don’t want to freak them out anymore then they already are. 
  • Check for a bump, bruise and/or blood.  These are signs that it’s a pretty serious injury and your child should be monitored more closely. 
  • Ice the area of the injury.  This will help with swelling and pain. 
  • Keep your kiddo awake after the fall.  Make sure that they stay awake for an hour or two after they fall to make sure they don’t have a concussion.  If they do fall asleep, try and wake them up.  If they are lethargic or don’t wake up, head to the ER immediately. 
  • Have them eat or drink something.  If they are able to keep food or drink down for an hour after the injury, that is a good sign they are doing ok. 
  • Talk to them.  If they are able to talk normally, that is a good sign!  If they have slurred speech or don’t make sense, you might want to have them checked out. 
  • Check their eyes.  Make sure they are able to follow your finger or a small light when you move it from side to side. 
  • Have them walk.  Check to see that they can walk normally after the fall. 
  • Ask them how their head feels.  If they are dizzy or have a headache that doesn’t go away, call or take them in. 
  • Call your doctor.  If you feel like you need more information, then call your pediatrician and ask their opinion. 
  • Head to the ER.  If you feel for any reason that your child needs immediate attention, head to the ER.  It’s better to have them checked out by a professional then to worry if they are ok.  Trust me, I know! 

Like I said, we were unsure if we needed to take Avery to the emergency room after he hit his head.  He had a bump on his head but was walking and talking normally.  It was around bedtime that he fell so he was slightly lethargic to begin with.  But then he started throwing up.  He threw up twice and I knew something wasn’t right.  I called his doctor who told me that if he continued to vomit, to bring him to the ER.  He did, so we packed up both kids and headed in. 

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They ER staff was super friendly and took his injury seriously.  They told us that instead of seeing a nurse practitioner like most patients, we would be seen by the doctor on staff.  That really reassured me and we were taken back pretty quickly.  Even though he was ok, I am glad we took him in and had him checked out. 

I hope that your kiddos never fall hard enough that this is needed information.  But I wanted to provide it just in case.  It’s better to be prepared then not!

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Happy 5th Birthday Ryley!

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Ryley Ellen,

Oh sweet girl – you are five today!  You have waited for so long to say that you are five.  We started a countdown a week before and you would eagerly tell me how many more sleeps you had before you were FIVE!  Today you woke up, crawled into my bed and told me “Momma, I’m five now!”  I asked if you were any different and you very quickly said “Yes, my legs are longer.”

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Oh Ryley you are so very smart.  You can count to almost 100, know all your letters and numbers and are so very close to reading.  We have started reading the Judy Moody series and are on book number 8 right now.  You will listen to me read and then talk about the characters all day.  “Two watches mom!  Like Amy Namey in Judy Moody!”  Yes, sweet girl.  You are right.

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You absolutely love Shopkins.  You have a collection of over 200 of these tiny grocery store figurines.  They are your pride and joy.  Any time you meet someone knew you boldly ask them “Do you love Shopkins?”  You assume that everyone loves them as much as you do.  You can spend hours playing with those tiny toys and you have requested a Shopkins birthday party.  Per your request, I must make you a Cheeky Chocolate birthday cake for your party too. 

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You are my best baking buddy.  I know I get impatient sometimes, but I truly love having you by my side.  You love getting the “gredients” and putting them in the our Kitchenaid.  You are also a great taste tester.  You seem to always be more interested in the batter then the end product.  You love licking the beater and occasionally share with your brother. 

One evening I may have mentioned chocolate chip cookies in passing.  You took that as we were going to make them.  Right now.  I look over on the counter and you have taken out almost everything we need to make them.  You couldn’t reach the baking powder and vanilla, but you had everything else on the counter for us. 

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You proclaim that your favorite colors are pink, purple and red to anyone who will listen.  Just the other day we painted your nails pink and red because you “love” those colors.  You are still doing Tippi Toes dance and are still loving getting all dressed up for recitals.  We started you late last semester and I wasn’t sure you would be able to pick up the dances for the recital.  You did, so we purchased a costume and you preferred in your winter recital.  You did so very well and I might have had tears in my eyes the whole time.

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We also went to your first professional ballet performance this year!  We went and saw the Nutcracker the week before Christmas with namaw.  You did so good for the first half of the show, but loudly asked “Is it over yet?” when the second half was under way.  Namaw bought you a shirt and you wear that thing with pride.  We hope to go to another show this spring. 

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Although you love all things girly, you also love to get your hands dirty.  You ride your bike up and down the street (with training wheels for now) and love playing in the sand box.  You even helped daddy by bringing him his bait when we went fishing!  Little brother didn’t want any part of it, but you grabbed it and proudly handed it to daddy.  You were also so very interested in the fish he caught.  You kept looking at it and touching its side.  Such a brave little lady!

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You may seem like a momma’s girl, but you love spending time with your “dadda”.  You want to know what he’s doing and why at all times.  If he’s not home you declare that you can’t wait for daddy to get home to see his pretty girl.  You.  You are his beautiful baby girl.  And mine!  We love you so very much Ryley Ellen.  We have cherished these 5 years watching you grow and learn.  You make mommy and daddy better people.  You make everyone who knows you smile.  You are sweet to your brother when he doesn’t deserve it.  You are our Ryley Bear and we love you more then words!  Happy 5th birthday sweet girl!

Love,

your momma

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Heyyyy.

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Hey yall. It’s been like.. forever? I had planned to take a week or two off to work on new posts/get my life together. Well, my last post was over a month ago, so clearly its been a bit longer.  I thought I’d give a little update and say, yes I am still around.

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In a previous post [I’m too lazy to look it up, how bad is that?!] I had talked about my Crohn’s flaring up.  I have been going between my GI doctor and my new family doctor to try and figure out what’s the next plan of action to take.  [Side note – I had to get a new family medicine doctor during all this because my old one decided to stop taking insurance but never thought “Hey, let me tell me patients!”  I’m not bitter.]  So currently I am fighting my insurance to cover a prescription that my doctor says I need.  That I know I need.  I was on a different medicine and it made me vomit.  Like 3 times a day.  It was horrible.  So now I’m back to being in pain all day, losing weight, being tired, being grumpy and all that fun stuff.  [I lied.  It’s not fun.  I’m so over it.]

That means that I haven’t been eating much lately.  When I have a flare up everything hurts my stomach whenever I eat.  [My Crohn’s is in my lower intestine but I say stomach just as a generalization.]  Here is a short list of things that upset my stomach now a days:

  • Water
  • Iced tea
  • Coffee
  • Milk
  • Salad
  • Rice
  • Corn
  • Fruit (all of it)
  • Bread/toast
  • Butter
  • Eggs
  • Garlic (garlic may be the worst for me)
  • Tomatoes
  • Beans

And that’s just a few things.  I really should put everything but I do ok with saltines.  So not everything.  But the lack of food makes me tired and grumpy.  I’m too tired to cook for my family most nights, so I’m not really in the mood to create new recipes for my blog.  Not that I don’t have ideas, I just don’t have the energy to make them.  And then I probably wouldn’t be able to eat any of it.  So for now, I’m on an unofficial hiatus. 

I do have some commitments to a few brands over the next few months that I have to honor.  And I’m happy to do so!  I honestly love cooking and not being able to just hurts my heart a little.  I have thought about just saying “I’m done!” but I know that would be the Crohn’s talking at this point.  When I get everything on track, the first thing I’m going to do is get back in the kitchen.  [Pinky swear on that one.]

My hiatus has carried over to my Facebook page, my Pinterest [WHAT?!] and twitter too.  I still post on Instagram every once and while because honestly, that’s all I have energy for.  And I hope I don’t sound like Im whining.  That last thing I want is to fill my blog with tons of posts that sound like a pity party.  But right now I’m down and out health wise and I wanted to document that plus explain where I have been. 

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All of this has stalled our move to Austin too.  Well, if we are going to move at all.  I have put this in the hands of the Lord and have asked him to guide us.  Neither Ryon or I are sure we want to be in Austin but don’t know how to make it work yet.  So there is some stress and anxiety in the mix too.  I’m really a hot mess right now.  Being an adult stinks.  [Can I get an amen?!] 

Anyways, thats all I have to say for now.  [I feel like Forest Gump.]  Talk to yall soon!

Kelley

Pre-Baby Bodies

Why I dont care about my pre-baby body
I’ve been a mom now for over 4 years.  Ryley turned 4 this past February and it was bitter sweet.  Its amazing and sometimes sad to watch your kids grow up.  I love watching her and Avery grow but at the same time I miss them when they were babies.  I wonder if Im doing a good job as a mom, if they are getting the right things to eat and if they watch too much TV.  With so much to worry about the one that is hardly ever on my mind is my pre-baby body.  
 
 
I’m not sure were this notion came about that we should ever have our pre-baby bodies back.  My body will never be pre-baby.  And I’m ok with that.  I have two beautiful children that have literally shaped me both mentally and physically.  And you know what?  I’m pretty sure they don’t care about what my body looked like before them anyways.  All they know is mommas body gives them hugs, piggyback rides, boat rides and I sometimes double as a chair.  My old body was not capable of any of those things until they were born because they were not here. 
 
 
And yes I have some weight  I could lose.  I don’t blame those few extra pounds on my kids.  Its from poor food choices and lack of exercise.  Plain and simple.  I would never point the finger at them as my reason for being big.  Heck, if I could keep up with them Im sure Id be smaller.  I’m just tired of women worrying about their pre-baby bodies.  Your body will not ever be the same again.  And that’s ok, because its a work of beauty.  We carried our babies for 9 months and with that we stretched and grew.  Our babies molded our bodies from the inside out!  Things aren’t in the right places anymore and things don’t sit as high.  [Ahem.]  But our bodies nourished these little babies and continue to do so every day. 
 
 
I wont ever have my high school body, or my pre-wedding body or even my pre-baby body.  My body has and will continue to change every single day. Every day.  I feel like worrying about having a body from the past is an unattainable goal.  I can either choose to focus on the past or savor the present with my kids in my current [and very much loved] body.  I choose the present. 
 
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Michigan Trip

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We went on a little summer vacation to Michigan this past week.  Ryon’s entire family lives there and we got to spend almost 10 together.  As soon as we got up there we went straight to Ryon’s grandparents in Northern Michigan.  The kids were able to run around and get dirty for 4 days with their cousins.  We crossed the Mackinac Bridge and went to the deer ranch; where we got to see a baby fawn be born!  Then I watched everyone get into the freezing cold lake.  [I took pictures and giggled as they ran out of the water.]

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I love watching the kids play with their cousins.  Its one of the best things ever.  They all get along so well that we can almost sit back and watch and just let them go.  [Almost.]  I’ve said if before, my mother in law has the most beautiful gardens I have ever seen.  They are on about 5 acres and every inch is landscaped perfectly.  My favorite part?  Her little herb garden that she inherited from Ryon’s grandma.  

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We spent the 3rd of July with Ryon’s brother’s inlaws.  They are seriously some of the nicest people I have ever met.  The kids were given free range again with even more kids to play with.  Plus, the food was ahhhh-mazing.  There was a peanut butter and chocolate cake/brownie dessert that I am still dreaming about.  

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We kept the partying going with a huge family get together for the fourth.  We were able to go to the parade were the kids got more candy then on Halloween.  They had so much fun just standing by the street and waving to everyone.  

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After the parade we had everyone over.  There was food, drinks and ladder ball.  I’m not the best at ladder ball but I sure talked a big game.  I kept everyone laughing at least.  And there was a rhubarb slush that I hope to recreate at home.  Our friend Dawn brought it and it was heavenly.  [Heavenly I tell ya!]

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On our last day we got to visit the family farm.  Both kids were so excited to get up and in the tractors.  They got the royal treatment and were driven around.  I don’t think Avery will every stop talking about the tractors.  

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We absolutely love being able to spend time up in Michigan with family.  Its one of favorite places to be.  We can’t wait to get together with family again.  For now, I am going to try to make that peanut butter/chocolate dessert and rhubarb slush.  If you need me – Ill be in the kitchen!

 

To the Mom at the Grocery Store

to the mom at the grocery store
A few weeks ago I went grocery shopping without the kids.  Ryon was home so I got a few hours to myself to shop.  I was walking through the cheese aisle and I saw a mom with four boys.  When I’m alone I try to give moms as much encouragement as possible.  This lady had two boys in the cart, one walking with her and was carrying one in a sling.  I was flat out impressed. I gave her a huge smile and wanted to say ‘go momma!’ to her. But as I walked past her eyes went to the floor.  She walked by without making eye contact and my heart hurt a little.  Not because she wouldn’t look at me or that I missed the chance to compliment her, but because I knew were she was coming from.  All to well. 
 
 
During another shopping trip without the kids, I watched two little boys in play in front of me in line.  I smiled at the mom and the boys because they were too cute.  They started to play dinosaurs and when the little one looked back at me I made dino hands and did a quiet roar.   And then I heard it.  A scoff from behind me.  I tried to ignore it and continued to watch the boys (who were behaving).  And then another scoff and a sigh.  I turned around and was shocked to see an older women behind me.  She caught my eyes and said “can you believe those boys running around like that?”  I think my face turned bright red because my blood was boiling so much.  I replied firmly “they are just boys and are not hurting anything”.  I turned back around to the front and made a louder dinosaur noise to the youngest and received the biggest smile in return. 
 
I don’t know when as a society we have become so intolerant of children and families. It boggles my mind that sex is plastered all over tv, billboards, shopping centers and magazines yet the act of raising children is frowned upon.  Nine times out of ten when I am at a store with the kids I get disapproving looks and stares.  Even when they are behaved!  I see more mothers who walk around stores with their heads down then I can count.   Myself included!  Why?  I want to avoid the stares and the whispers that come from others. I want to focus all my attention on kids so that some one else’s opinion doesn’t ruin my trip. 
 
 
It wasn’t until I passed that mom of four in the grocery store that I realized this.  I thought it was just me that walked around feeling judged and slightly embarrassed of being a mom.  That makes me sad and slightly sick to type.  But its the truth.  Well, it was.  I try not to look down but instead hold my head up when walking around the store.  My kids are my everything, why should I let some one I don’t know affect us?  
 
 
The thing is I never know how they are going to act.  Sometimes they are amazing and we laugh the our way through the store.  And then sometimes we cry our way through a store.  Either way, taking them out with me should never be an embarrassment.  And shame on me for feeling that way.  And for others that give disapproving looks.  Or tell another person how children should behave.  Its hard enough raising kids without having to worry what other people will think when you step out of the house.  
 
So to the mom of four in the grocery store, thank you.  Thank you for taking your kids with you to the store.  Thank you for helping me realize that I’m not alone.  And most importantly, thank you for being a mom who juggles it all just like the rest of us.  
 
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